Why You Need to Stop Asking For Permission

I had lunch with a friend today. She told me she wished there were other people in her industry that used social media to promote what they were doing. I told her to be the first. I told her not to ask for permission and do it. She cringed at first, and but after she saw the beads of sweat build up on my upper lip and realized that I was dead serious with my advice she perked up. Here’s what I told her:

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How to Know You’re On the Right Path

Two years ago, my Father had come home from the hospital and was settling in for the evening. Leaving his room that night, I kissed him and told him I loved him. He called to me. “Christopher!” I turned, standing in the doorway and replied: “yeah Dad?” He said, “keep up the good work.” I replied, “ok, Dad.”

I sort of chuckled to myself at the absurdity of the comment. No context. A simple directive. I didn’t think much of it and went about my evening. Those would be the last words my Father would ever speak to me.

It’s difficult to write that sentence. It was two years ago, and as I write this I can feel a deep swell of emotion in my chest. I used to run from that emotion. Dad was ill for six years. I didn’t allow myself to feel the terror of his terminal diagnosis of ALS-Lou Gehrig’s disease.

I drank a scotch to numb the pain. I worked too much to avoid speaking about my pain with my wife. I lost myself.

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5 Simple Ways To Make a Powerful First Impression

On Sunday the New York Yankees will retire Derek Jeter’s number. When I heard the news, I began reminiscing about July 9, 2011, when I had the opportunity to meet the Yankee legend.

It was only hours before Jeter smashed his 3,000th career hit at Yankee Stadium. I was on the field that day because of my father, Adrian Dessi. At the time, Dad was living with ALS–Lou Gehrig’s disease–and was about to throw out the first pitch for the game.

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Here’s How to Tell When It’s Time to Quit

By definition entrepreneurs are not quitters. We persevere, push through barriers and succeed. But the most successful know when it’s time to quit.

When I say quit, I don’t mean throwing in the towel and giving up. That’s not it at all. It’s deciding to go a different direction.

We can often get caught up in the well thought-out plan but sometimes, actually, often times, change is good. Those who can embrace the change are the ones who will achieve their goals.

This Billionaire CEO’s Trick for Managing Emails Will Make You Incredibly Productive

Do you feel overwhelmed by the number of emails constantly flooding your inbox? You’re not alone. It’s estimated that 269 billion emails are sent daily. An office worker receives an average of 121 emails per day. Yikes.

Sometimes I feel powerless when I stare at my inbox. It’s a constant game of whack-a-mole. I delete one, three pop up. I respond to three, five more pop up.

Will it ever end?

The bad news: Probably not.
The good news: There’s a trick that can help you tame the email beast!

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10 Powerful Things You Need to Do Alone

There are many major decisions in life where you should consult the wisest people you know. There are other, profound things you need to do on your own.

Your success hinges on being able to trust your personal intellect and intuition. Looking to your own abilities to guide you through your most pivotal life moments.

Here are ten things you should trust to nobody other than yourself:

What No One Tells You About Being an Entrepreneur

What No One Tells You About Being an Entrepreneur

I’ve been an entrepreneur for 5 years. After being an entrepreneur for 2 years, I was broke. I had spent those first 2 years as an entrepreneur making less money than I had made when I was in my first job out of graduate school. Much less.

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5 Simple Things You Need To Be Happy

Shawn’s team at his company GoodThink, Inc. have ensured that positive psychology no longer lives in the gray area of qualitative assumptions. They are creating a bedrock foundation of data that proves how we can become happier. And the quantitative results are profound.

Shawn told me “the truth that science is revealing is that small positive changes can change the trajectory of our life.”

Here are five small changes you can make to be happier. And they’re all free:

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Why You Need to Embrace ‘The Suck’ in 2017

The military has a way of boiling everything down to its most eloquent and basic foundation. They teach newcomers to embrace, what they refer to as “the Suck.”

It’s that threshold where your body breaks down, and your mind takes over. If you’re weak-minded and ready to quit, your body will follow suit. If you’re expecting “the suck.” Then you welcome it. You embrace it. You won’t succumb to it, and you push yourself through it.

Here are 5 steps for embracing “the suck.”

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7 Ways To Create A Blockbuster Year

I have no science to back my claims. No team of researchers trying to crack the code of why you keep getting in your own way. I only have my experiences, observations, and personal results to help you.

Here are 7 ways to finally create your breakout year

How the Most Self-Disciplined People Create Remarkable Results

You’re disciplined. I get it. You focus on keeping yourself motivated. You stay healthy. You even seek new ways to be successful in your career.

Self-discipline is a cornerstone of your life. Mine too. Also like you, I want to get better at it. So recently I decided to consult the most disciplined person I know:

Jason Van Camp is the founder and chairman of Mission 6 Zero. The company specializes in performance enhancement. Jason is also a West Point graduate, a Green Beret, and a great human being.

I recently connected with Jason to learn secrets to self-discipline. He shared seven daily habits that keep this Green Beret sharp, in tune, and over-performing on a consistent basis.

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20 Insanely Weird and Unique Gifts From Killer Startups

When I was younger I was obsessed with companies like Sharper Image. I would peruse the isles to discover new and compelling products to buy for friends and family.

While discussing this obsession with a friend recently, I decided I’d seek out and share a new generation of interesting products with you here.

So here it goes. Here are 20 insanely weird and unique gifts/products from killer start-ups.

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How to Get Comfortable With Being Uncomfortable

I’ve been an entrepreneur for seven years. Midway through the fourth year, things were coming to a head. I wasn’t getting enough sleep. I wasn’t exercising, and I wasn’t keeping my mind clear with meditation.

In the middle of what felt like my most stressful month of my life, my most senior employee resigned. While I was complaining about the debacle to an entrepreneur friend, he called me out: “Get comfortable with the feeling that you have right now.”

Confused, I asked, “What feeling?” He replied, “Feeling uncomfortable. Get comfortable feeling uncomfortable.”

He stopped me in my tracks. He was right. We all need to get more comfortable with being uncomfortable. We’re soft!

Here are 7 ways to get comfortable with being uncomfortable, according to one of the toughest and most resilient people I know, Green Beret Jason Van Camp.

How To Always Be The Best Version Of You

Motivation can be a fickle concept. We’re all go-getters at some point. We’re also all slackers at other times. Admit it…

When we’re confronted with unrealistic demands, how will we react? Can we sustain optimal performance? Sometimes, yes. Mostly, nope.

If you’re reading this, you should have a general understanding of how to do well at work. What I’m more interested in, and what I think will help you more, is reaching excellence in life.

How can we create a life where excellence becomes our default? And is it even possible?

I’m going to share six ways to be the best version of you.

Why You Need To Know The Answer To This One Question If You Want To Be Successful

Last week I sat down with former Green Beret, and NFL player Nate Boyer. We were on the phone to talk about his involvement in Mission6Zero, as well as his important work with not for profits. I was very curious about how a guy like Nate had accomplished so much in such a short period of time.

We spent a great deal of time discussing his unique approach to networking. More on that in a minute

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Grit Alone Is Useless Without This 1 Remarkable Thing

How can we define a path to freedom, success and fulfillment? What is the true secret to success? Why do we find ourselves working so hard, yet feeling so unfulfilled?

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10 Simple Ways to Motivate Yourself (Every. Single. Day)

There are myriad psychology models and theories on what motivates us to do the things we do: how we respond to incentives, achievement theories, and so on.

I look at motivation as excitement. So how can you remain motivated in a simple way that works every single day? Here are 10 ways.

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5 Steps to Recover from Getting Fired

ome with me to the office of a scrappy social media start-up in a run-down building on the upper west side of New York City in July of 2009.

You open the door and see four executives speaking to each other. Actually you only see three of the executives speaking. The fourth, silent executive is avoiding conflict. That executive is staring blankly back at the three doing the talking.

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How A Salesman Turned A Side Hustle Into a Multimillion-Dollar Business

If you were perusing Matt Masiello’s LinkedIn profile, nothing would strike you as out of the ordinary. Matt appears to be an average sales guy at an average company. Start to peel back the onion, though, and you’ll see there is nothing average about Matt.

He’s excelled at every step in his sales career at Cintas for the past nine years. But many have done so before him. What makes Matt so unique is that while at Cintas, he also launched a thriving multimillion-dollar side business.

I’m going to share the five steps that Matt took to build his dream business so that you can too:

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10 Steps To Produce Stunning Results In Your Life (According To Nate Boyer, Former Green Beret & NFL Player)

We all know people who produce results that seem otherworldly. People, who can cut through the cacophony of life, put their finger on a pulse, harness it’s energy and manifest things. Big, audacious things that many people only dream about.

They bound through life with a thirsty ferocity. Nate Boyer is one of those people. He’s a former Green Beret, and NFL player.

Either one of these things on their own are impressive. Together, he seems transcendent. Nate is the fraction of a percent of the elite one percent. The best of the best. Twice.

He’s also the guy who you may have spotted standing on the sidelines with Colin Kaepernick. I had a chance to speak with Nate about how he produces stunning results in his life.

Here are ten ways Nate Boyer, Former Green Beret and NFL Long Snapper gets things done.